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December 14th, 2009

Looking Up

Good morning,

I hope you are all having a lovely holiday season and that you are finding plenty of reasons to feel blessed, loved, and challenged just enough to keep things interesting.

Happy Holidays!

take care,

Skye Thomas

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This Week's News of Interest:

Hope 'Scopes

As many of you know, the forecasts over the last few months have reflected the negative aspects between various planets that have played a role in the economic, political, cultural, and societal challenges that we have been dealing with globally.  Some of you have written to us stating that you are tired of hearing all of the bad news and that you could really use something positive to focus your attention on, something to help you feel better as we go through this trying time.  Therefore, we have decided to create a new version of the horoscopes.

I have always felt that I should tell you when good things are coming so that you can position yourself to take advantage of as much of that goodness as you can.  And that I should also tell you the truth about the bad things coming so that you can brace yourself and plan accordingly.  I still believe in that philosophy even though we are going through challenging times at the moment.  Therefore, I will still write the original style of in-depth monthly forecasts, as well as the new "Hope 'Scopes".

http://www.TomorrowsEdge.net/hope-scopes.html

We will officially launch this new service Wednesday, and the first batch of upbeat positive weekly horoscopes will be sent out this weekend.

Quote of the Week:

Love at first sight is easy to understand; it's when two people have been looking at each other for a lifetime that it becomes a miracle. - Amy Bloom

Marriage is our last, best chance to grow up. - Joseph Barth

You have to walk carefully in the beginning of love; the running across fields into your lover's arms can only come later when you're sure they won't laugh if you trip. - Jonathan Carroll

Feature Article of the Week:

The First Ninety Days

A friend of mine recently commented on the amazing number of romance novels written and the huge amount of money being made in that industry.  He then shared his observation that these romance novels do not usually tell their stories beyond the first ninety days or so.  He said people just want to read about the romance of falling in love, not of the day-to-day life of being in long-term relationships.

I told him that it is not necessarily ninety days, but that is a fair enough number to use for discussion purposes.  I went on to tell him that those first ninety days of a relationship set the tone for the rest of the time you are with someone.  Typically, if a relationship goes sour in the first ninety days, it is not going to survive much longer.  If on the other hand, it is a beautiful first ninety days, then the relationship has a foundation to grow on.  When rough patches occur in the relationship, the couple often looks back to that honeymoon stage for inspiration to work through the problems.  If the first ninety days does not create something worth fighting for, then where is the motivation to keep the love alive?

I thought back on some of my own relationships.  I have had three major relationships as an adult.  One never had a 'first ninety days.'  I had decided to marry someone who was just a friend in order to give my two young children a chance at having a dad.  He was not really my "type" and he knew that going into the relationship.  The only thing that motivated me to work through the problems was my children's desire to keep their new dad around.  When he broke their trust through some dark behaviors on his part and they quit wanting him around, I was no longer motivated to bother with him.  Another relationship's 'first ninety days' only lasted about a month.  By the time the first ninety days was over, I had gotten pregnant despite using two forms of birth control.  However, during that first ninety days, he had cheated on me and done many other horrible destructive things to our relationship.  For the sake of our unborn child, I would try to make it work.  Finding the motivation to stick with him was very difficult because there were so few positive memories to build hope on.  Another relationship had an amazing and wonderful 'first ninety days' that lasted for a year.  As a result, I fought tooth and nail to make that relationship work long after everyone around me could see that the relationship had become unhealthy and self-destructive for both of us.  All three relationships had good days and bad, but it was so much easier to believe that we could have a beautiful future together if we had had a beautiful past together.

The first ninety days is very important.  It sets the foundation of 'happily ever after.'  No relationship can be all perfect all of the time, but with a strong foundation created right from the start, couples have something to hold onto, something to call sacred and holy.  That foundation should include elements of romance, trust, magic, attraction, and a like-minded long-term vision of how their life together will unfold.  The first ninety days gives you something solid to believe in.

Romance novels typically end with the couple happily married and delighting in the beauty of their children.  It is a safe place to end the story because they have already established a rock solid foundation to build their lives upon.  Look at the ending of Gone With The Wind.  Scarlett and Rhett did not set up a strong foundation at the beginning of their relationship.  We were left wondering if he would ever accept her back into his heart.  In the sequel, she finally creates 'the first ninety days' with him.  She had to create an atmosphere of romance, trust, magic, attraction, and a like-minded long-term vision of how their life together will unfold.  She had to be the one to do it, because she was the one who refused his attempts to create that foundation in the first movie.  He then had to wrestle with his conflicting memories of the first time they had been together as a couple and the second time they were together.  He eventually gets in touch with that part of himself that had loved her all along.  They finally can end the story with 'happily ever after' because the foundation was finally built and accepted as real.  It is not very often that people get a second chance to create the first ninety days.

I love to ask couples that have been happily married for a long time how they met.  I also ask them how they knew this was the right person for them.  Their stories of the first ninety days are always beautiful and often last longer than ninety days.  So many of them are love at first sight stories.  So many of them have one basic element that flows throughout the entire story of their relationship.  Just like in the first ninety days, every time they really take a long hard look at their partner, they fall in love all over again.  There is something enchanting about that other person that no matter what happens, they keep falling in love with them, over and over and over again.  They relive that first ninety days regardless of life's ups and downs.  They seldom tell stories of losing faith in the relationship or of ever really wanting to walk away.

Romance novels sell so well because we love the stories of romance.  Movies are no different than books.  Look at some of the all time greatest movies that center around love stories.  We love to hear of others setting up such amazing and powerful foundations that can never be torn down.  It is hidden in the depths of the human soul - that need to believe that 'happily ever after' really happens.  We especially like to see the couple overcome adversity only to have it bring them even closer together.  It gives us hope.  It gives us something to aspire to.  We love those first ninety days.

Need someone to talk to about life's challenges?  Skye Thomas is available for life coaching.

Copyright 2003, Skye Thomas, Tomorrow's Edge

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Skye Thomas is the CEO of Tomorrow’s Edge, an Internet leader in inspiring leaps of faith.  She became a writer in 1999 after twenty years of studying personal growth, motivation, soulmates, self-esteem, parenting, spirituality, metaphysics, family dynamics, dating, and astrology.  Her books, articles, and astrological forecasts have inspired people of all ages and faiths to recommit themselves to the pursuit of happiness.  To read more of her articles, previews of her books, and her astrology forecasts, go to www.TomorrowsEdge.net.  To read more about Skye and to sign up to receive one or more of her free newsletters, go to www.SkyeThomas.com.  

 

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