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September 12th, 2011

Looking Up

Hello everyone,

I hope you are all doing well and enjoying these first days of fall.

take care,

Skye Thomas

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Quote of the Week:

When the mind is thinking it is talking to itself. – Plato

The trouble with talking too fast is you may say something you haven't thought of yet. – Ann Landers

A friend is someone who knows all about you, and loves you just the same. - Elbert Hubbard

Feature Article of the Week:

Conversational Negative Self-Talk

Most people do not even know they are doing it.  Throughout the course of normal conversation, they bombard themselves with negative self-talk.  Even people who are aware of the power of their words seem to miss some of the most commonly used derogatory comments that are made towards ourselves in the course of normal conversation.  While plotting out goals and dreams we remember to stop ourselves from saying statements like “I can’t,” “I’m not good enough,” or “I’ll never be able to pull this off.”  However, it is the subtle little things that we say while on conversational autopilot that eat away at our self-confidence.

How many times have you heard someone in a conversation admit that they were misinformed in the past by saying, “Oops, I lied.”  Lying by definition is a deliberate and sometimes malicious intent to deceive another.  If you were wrong, misinformed, or made a bad assumption, but honestly believed you were giving factual information at the time, then it was NOT a lie.  You are not a liar.  You did not deliberately deceive the other person.  Do not use a negative term like “lied” to describe yourself.  Say, “Oops, I misunderstood,”  “oops, I made a bad assumption,” or, “oops, I was wrong.”  Unless you actually did it on purpose, it is not a lie and you should not call yourself a liar.  It amazes me how many people say “I lied!” repeatedly during normal conversation as if they are habitual liars or something.  It is a derogatory word.  Do not use it unless you really mean it.

The other night, my daughter was telling me about a friend of hers that she had been talking with on the telephone.  They were going over a tough homework assignment together.  Every time my daughter’s friend realized that she had written down the wrong answer, on autopilot she would say, “Oh, I’m stupid.”  Over and over without even realizing it, she kept calling herself stupid.  She said it ten or fifteen times within an hour-long conversation.  Funny thing is this girl is not stupid; she just thinks she is and acts accordingly.  If she were my daughter, I would make her stop saying that.  My children were taught never to call themselves such things.  My daughter’s friend is really not all that unusual.  I am always hearing people say that or they will say the equivalent, “I’m dumb” or “that was dumb” in reference to themselves.

Sometimes the negative comments are disguised as humor.  “I’m just a stupid guy,” “Oh well, what do you expect from a dumb blonde,” or “I think my mom dropped me one too many times as a baby!”  The fact that they feel a need to make excuses for themselves means that they have low self-confidence.

It is a subtle and difficult pattern to break.  A lot of people do it without noticing that they are doing it.  It is said with the same automatic presentation as the “Fine, thanks” that always follows “How are you?”  I recommend that you ask someone to help you with it.  For example, in speech classes they will harp on you for saying things like um, soooooo, or ya’ know.  These are fillers that we put into speeches to fill the gaps when we are nervous.  We do not know we are doing it until we have someone point it out to us consistently.  After awhile, the speech students begin to hear themselves and stop themselves from saying these filler phrases.  I would recommend doing the same thing to help each other out of conversational negative self-talk.

My daughter came home from school a couple of months ago and every other word was ‘like.’  Like there was this kid at school and like they were like so out of control!  The teacher like had to like send them to the office because like they wouldn’t sit down and like respect the class.  I giggled to myself as I stood there fixing dinner and listening to her 13-year-old lingo.  I asked her if she knew how much she was saying ‘like.’  She argued that she was not saying it.  Just as many people would argue that they are not guilty of negative self-talk.  So, as she carried on her conversation over-inserting “like” throughout her sentences for the next few minutes, I just said, “like” right after she did.  Over and over, I would just quietly say, “like” right after she did, until we were both able to laugh together.  She was quickly able to alter her speech patterns once she was forced into awareness.

It can really be that simple.  Offer to help a friend to overcome their automated negative comments by playing the same game with them.  If they are guilty of saying a particular derogatory statement repeatedly, then offer to help them to break the pattern.  If you can admit to yourself that you are one of those people who say negative things about yourself without really thinking about it, then ask someone to help you to stop.  You would be amazed at how quickly you can stop the behavior if someone will just make you take notice.  Self-awareness is the key to ending negative self-talk.

If you are too embarrassed to ask for help, or you do not have anyone that you would trust enough to help you, then you are going to have to make a huge effort to become more aware of the words you speak during casual conversation.  It is much more difficult, but still do-able.  Imagine that the negative statements are cuss words.  You would not want to throw those kinds of words out around your boss would you?  You would not want to use them around children would you?  You would not use them around your grandma would you?  Attach the same ‘No way!’ attitude to those negative self-talk statements.  Start really listening to yourself.  There is really no need to beat yourself up when you catch yourself rattling off these statements, just take notice and make a promise to yourself that you will stop.  Keep noticing, until you do stop.

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