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April 20th, 2009
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Good morning,
I am playing catch up after taking most of last week off to spend time with the kids during their Spring Break. Therefore, I am going to keep this short and sweet so I can get back to work.
take care,
Skye Thomas
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Quote of the Week:
A friend is someone who knows the song in your heart and can sing it back to you
when you have forgotten the words. -
If you should die before me, ask if you could bring a friend. -
If you live to be a hundred, I want to live to be a hundred minus one day, so I never
have to live without you. -
Feature Article of the Week:
Making New Friends
How do we make friends? More importantly if dropped into a new city or a new job or a new school, how do we go about making new friends? Most of us don't really think about it, but just sort of allow people to float in and out of our lives without really paying any attention to how we pull new people into our lives.
Years ago, my son was four years old and starting preschool. He had been begging to go for about a year and was thrilled that he was finally there. He had longed to play on their playground. He really loved all of the noise and commotion of such a large daycare center. The sight of all those other children running around, laughing, and playing fascinated him. He was so excited to dive in and start hanging out with those other kids. He was naturally outgoing and energetic, and had wonderful social skills so I knew he would get along just fine. I was a bit surprised when he came up to me after a few weeks and said that he was really struggling because as 'the new kid' he did not have any friends.
"How do I get some friends to play with me?"
I told him that every week I would give him a new assignment. I explained to him that you do not want to run through these steps too fast because it makes people nervous and they will push you away. You want to give them time to adjust to you as you go through these steps.
For the first week, all he had to do was smile a nice big smile and say, "Hi!" He needed to walk around saying 'hi' to teachers and students alike. Whoever seemed cool in his opinion. He did not have to be a geek about it and say 'hi' to everyone; just those he thought seemed kind of interesting. This gives people the impression that you are an upbeat positive person, but not too pushy. Greet them everyday with a smile on your face.
For the second week, he had to start adding their names to the cheerful greeting. When you see someone you like, smile real big and say "Hi Joey!" or "Hi Suzy!" or "Hi Anthony!" Just start learning their names and adding it to your greetings. This way they are already used to your pleasant greetings and it just personalizes it a bit. Greet them with a personalized greeting everyday.
For the third week, I told him to give them an honest compliment along with the greeting.
Do not make it something big and embarrassing, but something small and comfortable
for them to hear you say aloud in front of others. "Hi Joey! I love your Ninja
Turtle T-
For the fourth week, I was going to have him include an invitation to play with him in with his greetings, but he never got that far. He was having such a good time with all of his new friends that he never really bothered with any more lessons. He was very popular and well loved from that point on.
Every time he has changed schools or neighborhoods or started going to a new church
or gone away to camp or whatever, he has always used that same system to make new
friends. It is foolproof and always works for him. Now that he is a young adult,
he simply walks up to strangers, flashes them his best grin in a charming and almost
clown-
Can we as adults do the same thing? I know that if I really look at my own behaviors, the times that friends have seemed a bit scarce were when I was not doing a lot of reaching out and greeting them. If I was not personalizing my conversations towards them and I was not handing out the compliments, then new people did not seem to stick around and develop into friendships. Most people are a lot more insecure and shy then they let on, and they really feel good when someone else notices them enough to learn their name and to greet them with a real compliment. It usually makes them feel comfortable enough to respond and to begin opening up.
It's a really simple exercise... consistently greet them, personalize the greeting, and then add a compliment to the greeting, if you aren't friends by then, offer an invitation along with the greeting. People love to feel likeable. This system lets them know that you think they are likeable without making you feel like an uncomfortable nerd. It is slow enough paced to not be forced, unnatural, or pushy. We humans have funny little behavioral rules and rituals that we follow instinctively. We feel uneasy when someone does not approach us the right way. Deep down, a lot of people are skittish and easily spooked away. Give them time to check you out. It is amazing how beautifully this works.
Copyright 2003, Skye Thomas, Tomorrow's Edge
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