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November 6th, 2006
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Good Morning,
Here’s a funny little bit to share with you… my youngest is turning five this weekend. But we can’t get him the least bit excited because he keeps zeroing in on Thanksgiving Day on the calendar and the fact that, “We’re gonna have pie!” This is more important than his birthday and Christmas combined.
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Quote of the Week:
“Speak when you are angry and you will make the best speech you will ever regret.”
– Ambrose Bierce
“What is powerful is when what you say is just the tip of the iceberg of what you know.” – Jim Rohn
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The November astrology forecasts are posted to the site. Jupiter the planet of abundance is changing signs this month. You might want to see how that will be affecting you personally.
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If I Hurt You, Then I’m Sorry
This statement has stopped many a war in my house. My oldest two children are two years apart in age and would fight about everything and nothing when they were little. One would anger the other and then deny that it ever happened. One would accidentally harm the other during play and not want to accept responsibility for the other’s anger. Seldom did a day pass by that one of them was not screaming at the other for some horrible crime. It never failed when I would be brought in to mediate, they would both claim they were innocent and the other was bad. How many times did one of them try to convince me that the other was lying and just trying to frame them for a crime they did not commit. What’s a parent to do?
I really believe very strongly in teaching my kids to be accountable for their actions and choices. I want them to have their eyes wide open and to know full well that when they make a bad choice, bad things are likely to happen. And when they make good choices, that good things are likely to happen. I have worked really hard to get them to grasp the concept that if you treat people badly, they won’t like you. Also, do not mess with other people’s stuff without asking. It does not matter if you are a beautiful child of God. Nobody will want to hang out with you. Simple facts of life, but I do not see it being taught as much as I would like. They say that we learn our social skills from our siblings and the neighborhood kids. We role model what our parents show us, but we practice it on our peers.
One of the things I hated most in my own childhood was being forced to apologize
for things I did not do. I also hated being forced to apologize when I was simply
defending my person or my property from a known attacker, mainly my younger sister
and brother. I have also had too many adults in my life apologize for things they
were not sorry for and then later they just repeat the same actions over and over
again. When people say they are sorry, I often think to myself, “Good, then don’t
do it again.” Changing the behavior is so much more important to me then just offering
up the words, “I’m sorry.” I wanted to teach my children that you should never offer
fake apologies and you should only apologize when you really mean it. However, I
also wanted them to take responsibility for the environment of anger that they were
helping to create. Somehow, I had to find the perfect peace-
What I finally stumbled across was a twisted compromise. When you are feeling falsely
accused of something and the other person won’t back down, then you simply say, “If
I hurt you, then I’m sorry.” Then you bite your tongue, hard. Don’t say another
word. Don’t snicker and don’t sneer. Just say it straight-
It did not take long at all for me to see that this statement works just as well in the adult world too. Try it at work on a coworker some time and see how well they respond. Try it in your marriage. Try it with your extended family. It works on so many different levels. It can be said in light disagreements or in major all out family wars. It always works. On some level, you mean it, except for the parts where you don’t. Do not get into arguing over exactly what parts of the fight you are sorry for or taking blame for. Agree not to bicker over the details of the apology. You can expand it to say, “If during our disagreement, I have said or done anything that has hurt you, I am sorry. That was not my intention. I never wanted to hurt you.” You are not lying and you are offering an olive branch. You really did not want to hurt the other person. You simply wanted to make your point. This allows you to save face but still begin the healing process. Try it sometime.
I do not think it works for really heinous things like rape, murdering someone’s loved one, arson, or all out military warfare. It only works for forgivable stuff. If you believe everything and everyone is forgivable, then you can try saying it, but I expect nobody will really buy into it. If Hitler said it to the Jewish peoples or Charles Manson said it to his victims’ families, I doubt seriously that it would have created any real peace. When something truly ugly happens, you do have to flat out admit full guilt and a full real apology is mandatory before real forgiveness and healing can even begin to occur.
This form of apology is not for that sort of thing. This is meant only for the hundreds of petty squabbles that we are drawn into and it is a way to create a general atmosphere of peace and healing. This is for the people that you ultimately want to stay close to. This is an apology for those annoying people that you love with all your heart, but do not want to fight with anymore.
Copyright 2004, Skye Thomas, Tomorrow’s Edge
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