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Today, my eight year old began planning and plotting for the holidays and for his November birthday. Summer must be ending.
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If I were dropped out of a plane into the ocean and told the nearest land was 1,000
miles away, I'd still swim. And I'd despise the one who gave up. -
A ship in the harbor is safe, but that's not what ships are built for. -
So what do we do? Anything, something, so long as we just don't sit there. If we
screw it up, start over. Try something else. If we wait until we've satisfied all
the uncertainties, it may be too late. -
Feature Article of the Week:
Who Is The Inner Critic?
The inner critic is that voice inside your head that tells you that you are not good
enough, smart enough, talented enough, pretty enough, or strong enough. It nags
and natters at you to the point that your self-
The inner critic typically begins during childhood. Unfortunately, most of us have had parents, siblings, teachers, friends, and enemies tell us that we are not good enough. They laughed in your face when you told them your childhood dreams. It is not always said directly to our face. Sometimes it is a subtle undercurrent. Maybe you lived in the shadow of a perfect older brother and your folks forgot to cheer on your successes too. Maybe your folks did everything for you as if you were not capable of doing anything for yourself. Maybe you lived under the rule of a perfectionist, so everything you did was critiqued with a cold critical eye and never quite cut the mustard.
However it starts, the inner critic gathers proof that it is doing the right thing by protecting you from making foolish leaps of faith. It will find proof of your lack and inability to shine. Every time you give up and quit, the inner critic files that away in it is memory as proof yet again of your smallness. Years and years of layers of proof and validation coupled with the lack of a strong support system of cheerleaders strengthens the inner critic until it overpowers your own sense of drive and purpose. Your fears now rule your life.
Critics are not necessarily bad. They analyze and report back the results of their critique. The inner critic believes that he is protecting you. It is his job to keep you from doing harmful or foolish things. In the caveman days, he would have told you that you could not outrun the lion so you had best leave it alone. He would have told you not to try jumping off of that cliff because you do not have wings like a bird so you are not going to be able to fly. The inner critic is supposed to analyze your talents, traits, and abilities and then determine whether or not you have what it takes to accomplish whatever whim you are entertaining. At an enlightened balanced level he keeps you safe and out of trouble. In overdrive, he immobilizes you and keeps you from doing anything interesting and adventurous.
Look at the most common phobia in America -
I can relate completely to this fear, but what I have to do is look realistically at myself from a third party objective viewpoint. I hear my own inner critic worrying that I am going to make a fool of myself on stage because I will forget what I am going to say. The truth is, I have a gift of gab. I am a talkaholic. I have no historical evidence of forgetting what I was going to say. Quite the contrary, I typically add so much more than I had originally planned on saying. If I am honest in my evaluation of myself then I would realize that I have so much information, opinions, and stories that even if I do forget what I was going to say, I could 'wing it.' Everything I do comes back to trying to teach people how to be happy. I will find my way back to that goal even if I ever did forget. Therefore, in a logical analysis, I would have to say that it is an invalid fear. There is no reason at all to listen to my own inner critic when it is nagging at me not to get up on stage to speak. For me, there is no real danger involved. It would be a shame if I let an invalid fear stop me from doing what I love most, reaching out and helping people to make positive changes in themselves.
You may decide that your inner critic is telling the truth; you really are not capable of doing what you have set out to do. You want to own a restaurant but you are afraid of failing. Upon evaluation, you come to realize that you do not know anything about running a business or even cooking for that matter. Okay, great, so get lessons. Educate yourself; make solving the fears your first steps. Just because you do not have all of the tools today does not mean that you are never ever going to be able to succeed.
Your inner critic makes an evaluation about you based on mental programs and beliefs that has been fed into it over the course of your life. If you have a history of support and success, then your inner critic is probably balanced and logical. If you have a history of being ridiculed and of failure, then your inner critic is probably doing its best to save you from any further pain. You are so much more than your inner critic's opinion of you. You are forever capable of growing, learning, training, expanding, and contributing your unique beautiful self. Don't let your inner critic keep you from giving your gift to the world.
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Adapted from Beyond the Inner Critic,
copyright 1999, Skye Thomas, Tomorrow's Edge
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